Marriage

പരിണയം
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എൻ പാതി പകുത്തൊരു പതിവ്രതയെ നിന്നെ
പ്രാണനെന്നല്ലാതെന്തു വിളിപ്പു ഞാൻ
പരിണയമെത്രയപാരമെന്നാദ്യമായ്
യെന്നിലെയെന്നോട് ചൊല്ലി ഞാനാദ്യമായ്
"നീയുണ്ണായ്കിലു മൂട്ടണമിവളെ
നീയുടുക്കായ്കിലുമുടുപ്പിക്കണമിവളെ "
ഊട്ടിയതുമുടുപ്പിച്ച്തും നീയല്ലെ പ്രിയേ -
യെന്റെയുറവ വറ്റിയ ജീവിതത്തെ
നിൻ മധുരമൊഴിയാലെന്നിലിത്തിരി
നന്മയുടെ വിത്തുകളിട്ടതിനെ
നിൻ താങ്ങാൽ, തണലാൽ തലോടലാൽ
ജലവും വളവുമേകി വളർത്തിയിന്നതീ
ഞാനായി മാറിയെൻ
പുതുജീവിതത്തിൻ നാമ്പു നീട്ടി
പേടിയില്ലോട്ടുമിനി നീയെന്റെ -
യരികിലെന്നാലീ ജീവിതം ജീവിച്ചു തീർക്കാനായ്

The Parent in You

Children are the best investment one can have. But to make it worth investing, we need to invest the best and the most valuable thing we have i.e. TIME.

It is better to present your child a toy car for Rs.100/- and join him to play with it than gifting him a BMW and never bother even to see what he does with it.

Time is life. Giving your children your time means giving them your life and be sure you will get it back in hundred folds.

If your child is not able to play with you, not able to make mistakes, not allowed to experiment with his life, not able to learn new things-which you may feel unnecessary, not able to shout at you, not able to get an apology from you when you go wrong, never expect them back either now or in future.

Your child is a not you he/she has a different destiny. Support him/her to choose it and live his/her life. They will make mistakes-as they should. But appreciate their calibre to try new things. Guide them and be a mender for them. Never a policeman.

When your child knows even if he/she makes a mistake, you will be by his/her side, be sure they will ever be your side even after you are gone from this world.

I can’t be you, you can’t be me and we can’t be them. Understand it and accept them. Then you will experience that Heaven is Here and Now.

Thread of Love

“You have changed a lot. You don’t show me the kind of love you had earlier” was her complaint recently. “Yes I don’t show you. But that doesn't mean I don’t love you.” I said to myself. I know, I am not showing her any affection recently. I am at war-a war waged inside me - a war between me and me.

We had a lovely life in the beginning. We started our life in a small house which had only one room. I love her more than anything and I did tell her that and showed it all the way possible. Money was a problem, but she was very understanding as is now. She never complained about anything, except not being with her. We spent hours together which in turn built our life in a strong foundation.

As soon as my work was over, I would be hurrying home. I could never buy anything for her though I wanted to. Love cannot buy everything, need money for that. But she never complained. To increase our joy our first baby came in. I was worried, very much worried though I did not show it. But I knew she knows everything. Our hearts had become one. So it was neither possible to cover up my heart from her nor hers from me. We had a strong thread of love uniting us.

We had quarrels. Though not very often, we would get angry and shout at each other. Even when we were at the highest point of anger we never used words to intentionally hurt the other. Because I knew I am not hurting her but myself, so did her. Every night we would talk, say sorry to each other if we quarreled and would hug and kiss each other before sleep.

My financial crisis shook my mind and I was most of the time worried calculating and thinking over and over. It took most space of my mind and I forgot to spent time with her sometimes even to talk to her. It was worrying me how to take care of the family with the little income I get as a driver. I always wanted to buy a car for myself, but never did.

I felt a warm hand on my forehead and I opened my eyes. “I am sorry I didn't mean to hurt you. I was angry with the children and I just poured it out on you. I didn't think it would hurt you this much. I am sorry. I am so sorry.” I looked at her and asked, “Do you know that I love you more than anything in this world?” She hugged me tightly and said, “I know I am the person whom you love most. But I would like to hear it often.” Our tears became one like our hearts. Our son came and hugged us both and there we went back to the small one-room-house in the beginning.

Love is not love if it is not expressed.

തള്ളക്കോഴി

മുറ്റത്തുചിക്കിചികയുന്ന കോഴിപ്പിടയേയും കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങളെയും നോക്കി കുട്ടൻ കുറേ നേരമായി ഇരിക്കുന്നു. തള്ളക്കോഴി കരികില്ക്കിടയിലെല്ലാം ചിക്കിച്ചികഞ്ഞ് കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങക്കിട്ടുകൊടുക്കുന്നു. പക്ഷെ ഒന്നുപോലും ആ തള്ളക്കോഴിയുടെ വയറ്റിലേക്കു പോയതായിക്കണ്ടില്ല. പുഴുക്കളെയും പ്രാണികളെയുമിങ്ങനെ തപ്പി പെറുക്കിയെടുക്കുമ്പോഴും തള്ളക്കൊഴ്യുടെ കണ്ണുകൾ നാലുപാടും പായുന്നുണ്ടായിരുന്നു. വല്ല പരുന്തോ കുറുക്കനോ മറ്റോ വരുന്നുണ്ടോ? അതിനിടയ്ക്കതാ രണ്ടു കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങൾ ഒരു പുഴുവിനായി തല്ലുകൂടുന്നു. അവരുടെ വഴക്കു തീർക്കലും അതിനൊപ്പം തന്നെ തീർന്നു. വയറു നിറഞ്ഞ ചില കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങൾ ഒന്നു തലചായ്ക്കനിടം തേടി. അവസാനമാവൽ ചിക്കിചികഞ്ഞ കരികിലകൽക്കിടയിൽ ഒന്നുകൂടി നോക്കി. രണ്ടു മൂന്നു പുഴുക്കളെക്കിട്ടി.

"ങ്ഹാ അതു മതി !"

അവൾ വീണ്ടും തൻറെ കുഞ്ഞുങ്ങളുടെയടുത്തെയ്ക്കു നടന്നു.

The First and The Best Wonder of The World

The most mysterious relationship I have ever seen is in marriage. Two people of different taste, behaviour, ability, etc come together and become one. Though they may know each other only for a short span of time, their life, body, soul and mind become one that the pain of one hurts the other. The happiness of one will be doubled for the other. They may have prosperity or poverty, may have many children or none at all, may have many friends or a few enemies, may be in the best of their health or may have all the illnesses one can have – still they remain one. Their parents will leave them for eternal life. Their children will leave them to make their own nests. But they two feel comfortable in each other’s company – until death parts them. I think this is the most mysterious scenario in the world. The first and best wonder of the world is nothing but a family which keeps itself true to its name.

(Picture Courtesy Google)